August 14 2023

I had a rough week last week. I was very desperate and I was taking a lot of actions in a hurry. I was shouting at my kids and my husband. I was also doing a lot of counter factual thinking – “If only I have done that…. if only I have done this..” and I was actually being super hard on myself.

But when I was upset, it never occurred to me to pause or slow down or to be aware of what I was doing. I was just on the run and it was one thing on top of the other. I never slowed down until yesterday. That’s when I realised I was going in a spiral and I was giving myself a hard time and to those around me as well.

I didn’t know why exactly I was upset. I didn’t know how to come out of it. I was drowning in my own unhappiness.

My Learning to Share

I have learned to question myself “Why am I unhappy right now” when I am upset about something.

The question “why” gives clarity on what I want, and on why I am unhappy about not getting what I want. A lot of times it’s fear that maybe I will never get what I want. The question is “Can I still be happy even if I don’t get what I want?”

Can we let go of the outcome and be happy regardless?

What do you do when you feel upset?

Let me know your thoughts..