Are you being blamed?

Is someone blaming you?

Even if someone blames you, you are not responsible for their anger. 

You are never responsible for anyone’s unhappiness.

You are only responsible for your own happiness.

When some one is blaming you – it hurts you only when you believe that statement about yourself

When some is judging you – it hurts you only when you believe that judgement about yourself

When some is bullying you – it hurts you only when you believe that statement about yourself

September 1 2023

I was talking over the phone with my old friend, and he said something about me for which I felt blamed for.

Few years back, we decided to do coaching together and for some reason I never kept up my word. He blamed me in the conversation and said that I never follow my word. I got super angry and I decided to end the phone call.

Later, I realised I got angry because I have a self judgement that “I never keep up my word”.

When someone is blaming me and when it hurts me – it means that I am judging myself for it. It hurts me only when I believe that judgement about myself. Here in this example – I was believing that I was indecisive and “I never keep up my word and it’s bad”

I decided to drop these judgements. “I am doing my best at all times. And if I didn’t keep up my word – there is a good reason behind it and I did my best as well.”

How do you react or respond when someone blames you?

Let me know your thoughts..